Today, after the napkin incident, Miles' teacher told me that we have a problem. She said she noticed that Miles likes to play with his belly button -- a lot. And she said that it is not okay for him to do that. In fact, as she was saying this I was holding Miles and she saw him doing it again and told him - "No, no. We don't do that. That's dirty." Assumably saying that his belly button is actually dirty, I guess.
Miles has been doing this since probably around 3 or 4 months old. It's a soothing mechanism for him actually. He never took a paci or sucked his thumb, instead he's always soothed himself by playing with his belly button. It's nothing crazy - all he does is have his fingers on it playing with it and/or rubbing it. You'd barely notice unless you were paying attention. He's so obsessed with it though, that I had to get rid of all his onsies early because he couldn't play with his BB with them on. He normally rubs it right before he falls asleep, but at other times too. When he's bored and/or stressed. And I've never thought twice about it. If anything, I find it adorable, but I'm his mom so that's no surprise.
So imagine my complete and utter shock when she said that I need to tell him no and make him stop. I was floored.
So I asked her why!
She explained that in school this would be a huge problem. They will absolutely not let him do that in class in kindergarten. Then she relayed a long story about a boy who liked to play with his privates and how that's a big no-no.
But, this is is BELLY BUTTON! And it is most certainly NOT dirty! I'm not even sure where that part came from, but just thinking about it makes my blood boil.
I tried to explain that and argue with her, but Miles had had enough and jumped out of my arms and left the classroom. In my shocked state I didn't even know what to do, so I just said sorry and left.
So, this is where I need some help. Am I crazy for thinking that it's no big deal WHATSOEVER for Miles to play with his belly button whenever and where-ever he wants? Do schools really regulate that you cannot touch your own belly button?? And lets say that kindergarten will require that - isn't 2 a bit young to start enforcing this rule? Especially since it's his first week and he's stressed and confused and now your also taking away his only comfort? AND on top of all that - am I insane to think that this teacher has no right to call my son's belly button dirty?! The NERVE!!
Despite all this, I do like everything else about his teacher. And maybe she just thinks she's following the rules.
So, do I say something to her about it? Or do I have to restrict his belly button from him?